Robin for Lunch

One of the sweetest women I have ever met came for lunch one day a while ago, and I am just getting around to posting about it.  Frankly, my interest in blogging has been waning, and family stuff has taken precedence, but today, I want to share with you a very special afternoon.

Several years ago, when I first started blogging, I was struck to discover that one of the bloggers that I had been following lived in my little town, north of Atlanta.  I was thrilled to get together with her and found her delightful and inspirational.  Time passed and I thought about her fondly, but it was just this April when she accepted my invitation for lunch.  It's Robin from "All Things Heart and Home"!!!!!  

Here's the table I set in my breakfast room for the two of us.  After I showed her around our home, we sat down and chatted like old friends.  We shared about our lives, our loves, our children, and all of our precious grandchildren.  How refreshing it was to be with a woman of such depth and class and quality.  Her faith is real and so is her joy for life, and I treasured every minute that we shared.

From following her blog, I knew Robin was a girly-girl, so I chose to start planning the table with my Grandmother's Haviland china.

Grandma's name was Rose Ellie, and mine is Linda, so I guess I was meant to get her Rosalinde pattern.  She gave it to us as a wedding present and it is so special to me.

Here it is on a soft green dupioni silk cloth.

I picked up the pink roses and lavender in the pattern for the centerpiece.

Since this was a small table for two, I kept the arrangement small and low in this pink tole cachepot.  A little bit of lamb's ear softened it just a touch.

I also wanted to use this majolica patterned plate, so that is what I chose for dessert which was a lemon curd pavlova with raspberry sauce.

Just for photos, I stacked these with green depression glass plates and a pink cabbage leaf plate, which I actually used as a bread and butter plate.

A pink linen napkin was held in a silk apple blossom holder and I chose this French flatware with cream handles. 

This pink etched cranberry glass held water.

Here's the cabbage plate.

The accessories included these Imperial glass salt and peppers,

a pink LuRay platter with Waterford cream and sugar,

and a French glass water bottle that I placed in a Waterford wine coaster. 

I embellished things just a bit with these little paper boxes since it was just before Easter.

And, as a little take-home favor, I made a packet of embossed bunny tail stationery for her.  Robin is such an accomplished DIYer, that I thought she would appreciate it! 

It was such a pleasure to host this lovely woman, and even though it's been a while since we were together, I'm still thinking about our conversation.  Thanks, Robin.....let's do it again soon.

A Mother's Day Guest Post

Sometimes life sends you a friend that you'll have the rest of your life.  I was lucky enough to find such a friend many years ago, and she has been a follower of this blog since I started it.

Can you imagine my surprise and honor when she asked me if she could be

a guest blogger for me?  For Mothers' Day?  I said "yes" with tears in my eyes!

 

It is with great fanfare that I send you this Mothers' Day post, written from my dear 

friend, Jan.

My friendship with the creator of A Toile Tale began in 1987 in Cincinnati, Ohio.  A new family had moved in at the end of the block and they had two teenage daughters; that meant two possible babysitters!  If my memory serves me correctly, I packed up my 4 year old daughter and my 2 year old son and headed down to meet the new neighbors. Linda Peterson opened the door and with a warm smile, welcomed me and the kids in. That was the beginning of a 26 years (and still going) friendship with Linda, Larry (Mr. Pressed Pants), Amy Peterson Gralnik and Susie Peterson Yuhasz. 

Though many miles separate us these days (Linda and Larry live in the Atlanta area, Amy and Susie and their families live in the Cleveland area and I am in the Los Angeles area) we are still very present in each others’ lives.  I attended both Amy and Susie’s weddings and have watched them become accomplished adult women and most importantly, wonderful mothers of boys (who you know thru Linda’s postings). 

There is so much to share about why I love the Petersons, but since it’s Mothers Day, I’m choosing a story about my dear friend Linda – mostly because I want to honor her.  I’m not sure Amy and Susie know this story about their mom, but considering the age their boys are now, I have no doubt this heartfelt advice from their mom to me will surely might come in handy if not now, someday soon.

Linda wrote me this very important message after we had been talking on the phone.  I had been sharing some frustrations about one of my boys.  (Michael was age 15 at the time, so does this surprise you?)  After we hung up, these very wise words came to me via email on May 13, 2001.  I printed and saved these sentiments and have shared them with friends.  The paper they are printed on is old now and the edges are crinkled.  

No matter how long ago they were written, this note from Linda always provides me with the strength I need to be a good mom/right mom even now that my children are adults.  My guess is these thoughts have/will apply to you and your life as well.  It’s a Mother’s Day wish from me to all  A Toile Tale’s readers.  These words never cease to bring me to tears and make my heart hurt wishing I still lived right up the street from my dear friend Linda. 

Jan – I’ve been thinking about you today.  Mother’s Day is really all about you and where you are in mothering right now.  It is so much easier to give a bottle in the middle of the night than it is to wait for a teenager to come home in the middle of the night.  It is so much easier to watch a child who’s new at walking than one that’s new at driving.  It is so much easier to plan play dates than to counsel a child on who or what to date.

You are in the trenches right NOW, Jan.  I just hope you see that you are successful at your ”job”.  Your children are all so delightful and I love being around them.  They are caring, sensitive, talented and most of all, loving.  They are quality people.  Their character and their values are so special and that’s because a good mother has mothered them well….very well.  Please pat yourself on the back today.  Look at their sweet faces and know that you’re doing a damn good job.  You can’t make their every moment perfect, but you shouldn’t.  They need to learn to shoulder disappointment as much as they need to shoulder responsibility.  You’re not in charge of their happiness, just everything else in their life; their safety, their education, their meals, their haircuts, their dog, their clean sheets….everything else.  Then, when you have done your job, they get to go and make their own happiness.  We’re moms, not fairy godmothers.  There’s no magic wand….just day after day of lessons and discipline.  Here’s a hug to one of the best moms on earth.  Love, Linda

Happy Mother’s Day to all of the mothers who try so hard and love so fiercely.   Thank you Linda, for always being there for me, no matter what.  You’ve taught me and modeled for me some of the most important things I needed to know about mothering. 

Xoxo, Jan Kincaid Clifford

Also remembering, with love, Mary Dora Bancroft Kincaid (1921-2007) and Patricia Gray Clifford (1931-2000)

There is nothing more to say.  Jan has written such a beautiful post and I love her for this.